The family and I watched the film “The Lion King” on TV this weekend; it is a great family film that communicates at many levels.
There was a particular scene that reminded of numerous conversations I have had with recruitment business owners.
In the film the wise monkey Rafiki leaves Pride Park in search of the main character Simba, who is the rightful heir to the pride of Lions.
Simba left his friends and family after a freak accident in which his father was killed in a stampede. Simba always believed that he was responsible for the death of his father, so in shame he left vowing never to return.
Rafiki eventually found Simba and begged him to come back to the pride and restore order, as his uncle was creating havoc in his absence.
“I can’t return to the pride” said Simba.
“Why not?” asked Rafiki
“Because of what happened in the past, I am so ashamed of what I did.” Simba replied.
Notice how Simba is allowing what happened in the past to dictate his future.
At this point in the film Rafiki swung his walking stick and smacked Simba right between the eyes.
“Ouch! What is that for” screamed Simba
“It does not matter, it is in the past” said the wise monkey
“Yes but the past is still hurting now” replied Simba
“Ah but you see, this is where opportunity awaits. For you can focus on the pain, and question the reason of the past, or you can go beyond the pain and learn from the past.” said Rafiki
At this point, Rafiki swung his walking stick again towards Sambas’ face, but this time Simba ducked. He had learned it was better to learn from the past than to dwell on it.
Every day I will hear from a recruitment business owner on why they can’t achieve what they truly desire. They will blame it on something that has happened in the past. Maybe the relationship with their parents, sibling or partner. Sometimes the recruitment business owner will blame the consultants the candidates or clients.
Psychologist call this, “Cause & Effect”
An example of this maybe “The business is underperforming because my team are not billing” or “I am unhappy at work because I don’t get on with my clients.”
All these are examples of what psychologists call being at “Effect.”
If however you are at “Cause” you will accept 100% responsibility for the performance of your team, consequently you will look to do something about it. Or if you don’t get on with a client and you take responsibility for this, then you acknowledge that it is your choice to work with that particular client.
Sometimes when I share this with some recruitment business owners, they will often do what’s called “arguing for their limitations” usually starting the conversation “Yes but, I can’t be blamed for my team under-performing.” Well that is where the difference is, it is not about blame it is about being at “Cause”.
What psychologists have discovered is that business owners that accept 100% responsibility for everything in their life, or are at “Cause”, tend to be more successful, happier and have greater contentment. Once you accept that your success is your choice and that you are responsible for everything in your life, then you can no longer be the victim as you are now acknowledging that you can do something about it.
What would your business look like if you always were at “Cause” and took the lesson from the past to create the future that you desire?
Wishing you continued success,
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